How to deal with all the negativity and internal triggers

Yeah, okay, so we have problems in life sometimes, right? Who doesn’t? Whether we’re kids or their parents, stuff happens, and it’s often very unpleasant. And that’s when it hits us. The trigger to our negativity buttons, sending us off, again and again. Whether it’s tapping into that deep depressive state – you know the one I’m talking about – that sinks us into a flood of disquietude. Where we can’t talk to anyone, or we cry, or we lose our sense of consciousness.

Or maybe anger is our preferred mode of dysfunction. Anyone relate to this one? Where the hatred and the anger and all the negative past conditioning sets us off beyond our abilities of self-control and dignity. Sound maybe even vaguely familiar anyone? This is the one that seems to have plagued many of the kids we talk about here at StolenBoy.com. And it afflicts their parents and probably their parents before them, like bad DNA being handed down from one generation to the next. The knee-trigger reactionary pattern where parent flies off the handle because of something a loved one did, and spreads their internal ugliness and unhappiness to their spouse or their children or anyone else who happens to be near, maybe even the dog.

And then the spouse and the child become the victims, or maybe they turn this familial dysfunction against someone else, someone they love very much. And the cycle continues and this pattern of spiritual unconsciousness increases and spreads like house mold onto everything this family touches. Know anyone like this? We’ve seen these patterns of familial dysfunction through our friends and associates and even our own families. We see it dance around us, yet, most of us have really no clue as to the cause or the cure.

THE CURE TO NEGATIVE REACTIONARY PATTERNS

One answer might be to learn a very simple trick on how to deal with negative situations or triggers in life. Basically, there are three things we can do to deal with any negative development, person, or situation that confronts us. They are: 1) to get away from the problem; 2) to transform the situation into a positive one; or, 3) surrender to whatever is, at all times.

Choosing any or either of the above will do it. It will eliminate the negative reactionary pattern that causes pain and suffering for those around us and ourselves, and causes us to do things we often regret later, bad things that destroy lives and families, and we will discuss these in our next three sessions.

TO BE CONTINUED…